Top Ten Tips For Remaining Psychologically Resilient

Psychological resilience can be defined as the ability to resist and manage stressors and to “bounce back” from stress life events. It is vital to understand that resilience is not being strong all the time and never experiencing stress. Resilience is often the ability to be aware that stressors are having a psychological impact and consciously engaging in activities that help you manage and cope with these stressors.

TIP 1: MAINTAIN A SOCIAL SUPPORT NETWORK 

It is much easier to be resilient to the challenges of work and life if you have a solid social support network. Talking about your feelings and having strong connections to your partner, family, friends and work colleagues helps you to be more effective at facing life’s difficulties. It is important to make time for your partner, family, friends and work colleagues and it is vital to keep being social even when your feel under pressure and you may not feel like being sociable.

TIP 2: MAINTAIN A THIRD PLACE 

An important element of being resilient is to have and maintain a “third place”. This third place should be in addition to your home (first place) and your workplace (second place). Your third place should be a physical environment where you go to relax, socialise and/or engage in an interest/hobby. Examples of third places are health clubs/gyms, sports clubs, public houses and so on. When under pressure, we have a natural tendency to spend too much time at work and/or home but it is important to keep spending time at our third place.

TIP 3: SPIRITUAL INTELLIGENCE 

The concept of spiritual intelligence is complex but in this context spiritual intelligence is the ability to decide what is really important to you and to spend time on these activities. It has often been noted that people who perform voluntary work are more resilient than those who do not engage in such an activity. This is because by engaging in voluntary work an individual has thought about what is important to them and then spends some time on this activity without monetary reward. It is not necessary for you to engage in voluntary work (although you may decide to do this) but it is helpful in being resilient to think about what activities are important to you and to spend some time engaging in these activities.

TIP 4: KEEP A BOUNDARY BETWEEN YOUR PERSONAL AND WORK LIFE 

Pressures and problems can come from both your personal and work life. One key strategy to be resilient from pressures, is to keep a clear boundary between your work and personal life. You need to have techniques for “switching off” from work so that it does not impinge on your personal life and there are a variety of methods for this for example stopping for a coffee after leaving work before going home. Don’t forget, it’s also important to not let personal problems impact on work.

TIP 5: KNOW YOUR EARLY SIGNS OF STRESS 

As stated earlier, being resilient is not about being strong all the time and never feeling pressure/stress. Resilience is knowing when you are starting to feel stressed and using techniques to help keep in control e.g. deep breathing, exercising more and talking to family and friends about how you are feeling. To help with this it is useful to be aware of what your early signs of stress are. Early signs tend to occur in four areas:

– Physical- Generally more people have some physical signs when they are starting to feel stressed. This can be headaches, pain in the neck/shoulders or digestion problems.

– Emotional- When under stress, people can feel angry, frustrated and/or low in mood.

– Cognitive- When under pressure, we tend not to think effectively so we can become indecisive or we become more forgetful or experience concentration difficulties.

– Behaviour- Behaviours can change, we can lose our temper more frequently or have trouble sleeping.

TIP 6: PHYSICAL EXERCISE 

Generally, the healthier you are physically, the easier it is to be resilient to stressors. One key way of maintaining your resilience is to be active, in particular cardiovascular exercises and body stretches. The key is to do some exercise, little and often, for example, walking regularly, swimming twice a week, cycling or playing sports. It is very important to maintain an exercise regime when you are feeling particularly stressed and if possible do slightly more exercise than usual to help you cope with the difficulties.

TIP 7: DEEP BREATHING 

Deep breathing is one of the easiest relaxation techniques to master and it is also one of the most effective in helping you remain calm and resilient. Slow, deep (diaphragmatic) breathing slows down your heart rate, lowers blood pressure and reduces tension in the muscles. The simplest method for practising deep breathing is as below:

Sit comfortably in a chair with a good posture and both feet flat on the floor. Close your eyes and place your left palm on your stomach and your right palm on your chest. Now breath slowly in through the nose and out through the nose without holding your breath at any point. Try and expand your stomach as you breath in and contract your stomach as you breath out. Try and breath so that only your left palm moves and not your right. Your chest and shoulders should not move as you breath, only your stomach. All the time you should be relaxed and concentrating on breathing slowly.

TIP 8: REDUCE SELF CRITICISM 

One habit too many people have which reduces their resilience, is that they are too critical of themselves. Self-criticism often occurs as a voice in our head (sometimes called an internal monologue) which is critical of our thoughts, feelings and behaviour and often linked to self-criticism is our tendency to be too critical of others. One method to help us be less self-critical, and therefore more resilient, is to consciously try and become less critical and negative towards others.

TIP 9: PERSONAL ORANISATIONAL SYSTEM 

Increasingly in modern life we have a multitude of activities and tasks to keep track of both at work and in our personal life. Managing all these tasks can be stressful and to be resilient, it is important to have an organisational system that prevents us feeling overwhelmed by the demands placed upon us. Specifically, your organisational system should achieve two major elements which help you maintain your resilience:

Keep your to-dos “outside of your head”. In other words, you should not rely on your memory to trigger when you should do your actions, it is your organisational system that reminds you when to do things. The less you rely on your memory, the better.

– It is always vital to have a clear distinction between task which are urgent (that is time dependent and must be performed now e.g. a ringing phone) and important tasks. Resilient people tend to spend more time on actions which are not urgent but are important whereas when we are under pressure and stress we tend to focus on the urgent, unimportant tasks.

TIP 10: RESILIENT THINKING 

A vital element of being resilient is how you perceive and think about the challenges that life throws at you. Resilient individuals tend to be good at keeping stressors in perspective so that they are not overwhelmed by such stressors. Equally, resilient individuals focus on how they can solve their problems or make their problems easier in some way. Resilient thinking tries to be as creative as possible and to focus on solution and/or management of a problem not on the problem itself and the feelings it generates. The analogy of resilient thinking that is often used is…’when you have fallen into a hole, your thinking should be how do you climb out of the hole not how you fell into the hole or how unlucky you are to be in the hole’.

A very useful technique for maintaining resilient thinking is to keep a Gratitude Diary. Every day, you should write in this diary three things in your life that you are grateful for. The key is that every day you should come up with three new things to be grateful for. By carrying out this activity you are training your mind to focus on positive things which in turn helps you be more resilient.

In your busy life, it may not be possible to implement all of these tips but always try and think creatively and it may be possible to combine two or more tips together e.g. playing tennis with your partner and/or children. This will enable you to maintain your social support network, spend time on an activity which is important to you and gives you some exercise.

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